My cousin, Lena left for college last week, and this is what I wrote in her scrapbook. It doesn’t begin to cover everything, but these are the things that rose to the top, in terms of what I wanted to be “permanent,” a quick reference of reminders…real life, no fluff reminders.
There’s so much I want to say to you. Words can’t express how proud of you I am. I’m so excited for you and all that lies ahead, but accepting that you’re here–at this age–leaving for college, is so hard to do!
I have a few pieces of advice: Please be careful. Always. Most of your peers are harmless, but you can’t trust everyone. You’ve always been such a smart girl, always very intuitive. Don’t stop now. Continue to trust your gut, which you know is the Holy Spirit. Listen to that voice inside, especially when you aren’t sure what to do.
Drinking: I won’t pretend you won’t at least try it. Never leave your drink unattended. And never drink something handed to you, if you didn’t see it being prepared (remember what I said about not trusting everyone). Being tipsy is fun, but it’s so easy to overdo it. It’s natural to want to drink more to keep feeling tipsy, or to get even more tipsy. Don’t. You’ll regret it every time. Try to remember to drink water between drinks. And if you do happen to get too drunk, before going to bed, take Tylenol with a lot of water to help with the hangover. My advice is really just not to ever be hungover, but I know it can happen.
Keep in mind that one bad grade on a big assignment can literally follow you your entire time in college, so do your absolute best on everything, no matter how tired and burned out you may be. There’s always a break not too far away. 🙂
You’re going to a big city, so again, always be aware of your surroundings. Just because you’re on campus doesn’t necessarily mean you’re safe. Please, if at all possible, avoid being out alone, especially at night. If something doesn’t feel right, don’t be afraid to ask a security guard to walk you to your destination.
Remember how much I love you, and that I’m only a phone call away.